Anyone seen the episode of Friends where Joey mentions being a "mento"?
Well, I've been reflecting recently on the help I've received on my journey to becoming a published writer. Here are some "mentos" I'm grateful for:
Mento 1: Subtle FlavorWhen I attened my first writers' conference, I had a consultation with an incredibly kind and patient man who asked me a lot of questions along the lines of:
"Why did you include this scene in your book?"
and
"What makes your main character likeable?"
with the aim of showing me where I had gone wrong in my manuscript. I picked up on his subtle advice without feeling like I was a terrible failure of a writer.
He then introduced me to a couple of people, saying, "This young woman is a great writer and is really going to be big someday soon." He gave me his contact info and we exchanged several emails after the conference was over in which he answered many questions and gave me lots of advice. Years later, it baffles me that he went through so much trouble to encourage what must have seemed to him to be a dreadfully inexperienced new writer.
Mento 2: Tasty Spaceship
At this same conference, someone introduced me to an author who wrote science fiction. She told me a little about her career and how she had gotten to be a published writer. Then she took me to the on-site bookstore to point out some books that would be address a lot of the questions I had. I still have those books; they have definitely helped me out a lot.
Mento 3: Minty Academic
In college, my creative writing professor got to know me well--I constantly dropped by his office with pages of writing for him to critique, and he was always happy to read my work and offer me advice. In fact, my friend and I convinced him to hold an independent study class with the two of us in which he guided us through writing our novels. I still email him with questions, and he even read a draft of
Last Midnight while I was looking for an agent.
Mento 4: Chalky but DelightfulI was lucky enough to get another helpful manuscript consultation at a SCBWI writers' conference in LA. My reviewer was nice enough to point out what I had done well in my opening chapters. And then he asked me a very important question: "You seem like a bright, cheerful person--why is this manuscript so dark and dismal?" Not only did his question make me realize that I like stories that are balanced out by humor, quirkiness, and hope; I realized the importance of sincerity--of writing from your true self rather than what you think you should write.
I would love to hear about your mento(r)s!